Why do powerful women scare us?
Growing up I looked up two fictional characters these where Hermione Granger and Velma from Scooby Doo. These two girls helped me understand what a strong and smart women can achieve and that’s exactly what I wanted to be.
Up until last year I feared calling myself a feminist as i didn’t want people to take the piss out of me and call me a ‘special little snowflake’ because i saw something wrong with the women are treated in society. I no longer care that by expressing my view on equal rights I’m most likely to be called a Femi-nazi by men who can’t stand the idea of powerful women.
To me a powerful women is someone who knows what she wants and how to get it but doesn’t tear down others to do so. My top three powerful women would be my Mum, Emma Watson and Sophia Amoruso i don’t want or need a perfect woman to look up to but someone who is flawed but still doing their best.
Take Sophia Amoruso author of #Girlboss and business women who started her own company at 22 but recently had to declare herself bankrupt hasn’t let that stop her in moving on with her life and really company flourish and fail so quickly that the ability to pick yourself back up afterwards is what is inspiring.
In my bid to champion feminism I’ve come across a mix range of views on what that now means however it should always mean this; “The advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of equality of the sexes” and that’s whats important about feminism is that it should be about equality not making one gender superior to the other and anyone who thinks this is not a true feminist.
Yes feminism is still needed in today’s society and will be needed as long as there are sexist men who are allowed to have power and say in women rights. The need for women to unite against this ideology is needed even more now with people choosing to elect a president who thinks that its okay to say that he would grab them by the pussy, yet he is allowed to get away with it due to being a powerful man.
It’s a disgusting way to talk and view women but its inspiring to see how this has brought women closer together to unite as nasty gals.
Another example of why feminism is needed was seen earlier this week in the european parliament when an MEP Janusz Korwin-Mikke described women as being weaker, smaller and less intelligent and therefore it being okay to pay them less. This comes from a man who has a say in women rights and infuriated a Spanish MEP Iratxe Garcia Perez who stood up to him and called him out for the blatant sexism.
Iratxe Garcia Perez speaking at the european parliament
“I am here to defend all European women from men like you” Miss Garcia Perez
It baffles me as how other women can’t support feminism however and instead of empowering others they bring them down. That is not a strong women in my eyes but a hateful one who doesn’t want others to succeed.
The controversy recently over Emma Watson’s photoshoot for Vanity Fair is yet again another example of the twisted way people now view feminism. How can something that has been artfully done for a fashion magazine diminish her views on feminism. In reality it doesn’t have any effect on her views as long as it empowering women and is her own choice. That is where it differs from page 3 which is only there for mens pleasure and is not empowering to anybody.
Does my love of lipstick invalidate my views on feminism?
Is sadly a question that I feel the need to ask myself when i see articles slating women on how they look or claiming that they can’t be a feminist because they wear makeup which is obviously for the pleasure of men not to give themselves confidence.
No it doesn’t invalidate my views at all, it docent change my opinion or how i want other people to see me all it does it give me a little bit of confidence when i see myself in the mirror.
I don’t understand some mens confusion when you say thank you after a compliment instead of rejecting it. Somehow this is seen as being cocky instead of empowering as it should be. If I think i look pretty I’m not going to tell you I’m not nor should your opinion change how i feel about myself when i look into a mirror.
This all comes back to society fear of powerful women who are out there empowering other women to be great in all that they do. To me the women who empowers everything I do is my mum who is so strong when facing the most difficult of times that I can’t help but not be inspired by her and her ability to still stand tall.
The world is full of powerful women and I want to be considered as one of these women.